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Privacy vs. "I'm the only one she yells at"

As a new teacher, I depend on the methods I learned in college. For discipline, I was told it is essential to keep disciplining absolutely private. When a child is misbehaving, I go ove rto them and quietly tell them to change their behavior. I do not argue. If kids try to argue, I stay quiet and repeat the same thing over.

This year, I have had many parents call and tell my principal the same thing. "My child says he/she is the only one to ever get bounced. I am able to control behaviors so discreetly, no one notices. That means the kids don't see anyone else getting in trouble. Because of this, I now have a lot of kids who really hate me because they think they are the only ones I pay attention to. My Angry Child (discussed in a previous post) was an example of this. He thinks I sit and stare at him all class because he is the only one to get in trouble.

This misinterpretation of my discipline style is affecting my kids attitude in class. My question now is, should I make discipline more public? Should I be yelling across the room when someone puts their head down? Should I make them stand when I redirect them? I don't know what to do!!!

Posted: Friday, May 16, 2008 11:05 AM by ToxGalena

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lfox368806 said:

No, you're doing it right.  When the parent (or child) complains about being the only one to get into trouble, ask, "how did you know you were in trouble?"  When they realize that you talked to them privately, point out that the other students also get that notification privately.

# May 16, 2008 11:21 AM

ToxGalena said:

What a great suggestion! I will definately try that next time.

# May 16, 2008 11:35 AM

WoofWoof said:

I agree with the above! You could also point out that you're helping them correct their behavior BEFORE they "get in trouble" and prefer to do that without the embarassment of public correction. You might want to point out that you COULD call them out in front of the entire class, but have too much respect for them to do that.

Another thing you might want to consider is private kudos as well. When a child is doing something right, especially one that rarely does, go over and whisper that he/she's doing a great job. This way, nobody knows what your whispers really mean - except the whisper-ee, of course! LOL

# May 16, 2008 2:57 PM

Betty said:

I agree with WoofWoof that you can use this technique for good comments as well as behavior reminders.  You might even consider talking to your students about this.  Let them know that you talk to each of them quietly to let them know how they are doing and that this helps the rest of them stay on task.  You might also talk to parents at the beginning of the year and explain your discipline methods to them.  

# May 17, 2008 7:34 AM

missusbee said:

Publicly catching them doing good works wonders to both appease parents and encourage positive behaviors.

# May 18, 2008 11:04 AM
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